Another piece from Charly Boy...enjoy...
Wanting so badly to get hooked is something many people seem to take far
too lightly and for granted these days. Something some of them feel they
should do to win acceptance from people and society. These days' people
look at the package and never the content, forgetting that marriage should be
a life time commitment of two strangers. In some cases the marriage may
workout, like, Charles and Diane, Tunde and Wummie. But most of the time it
falls like a park of cards, because as people are rushing to get in, people are
rushing to get out, at an alarming rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce has become the trend as soon as the honey
Moon is over. People use to think that divorce rate is only high amongst
celebrities, but now, across board, couples are falling asunder, going under
the pressure of a very bad decision , just because they Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are blowing and burning pots of money on very fancy
weddings that really don't last after the honey moon. In this age, some parents still
pressure their daughters in getting married early. It's like, once your girl crosses
the 30yrs bracket, they start to panic, getting anxious and putting pressure on their
girl to get married, like it is that easy. She just can't go to the market and buy a
husband, or can she? When the poor girl insists on finding her dream man, she is
accused of being unserious. Parents please learn to back off joor , it's not by force.
After all, are they the ones who will leave with the spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person, because if it is the
razzmatazz of the wedding things that you enjoy, go ahead and throw yourself a
big nonstop party for a whole week. After all, weddings are just one day event, but
a marriage is supposed to be a life time thing. I know that weddings are fun,
romantic and you can finally tell your girlfriends, boyfriends or your sugar daddy's
that you have finally captured your own ' mugu' . But has this guy been tried and
tested? Dating and courting is a different matter from 'Till Death Do You Part'.
Living with one human being for the rest of your life. My sister look the thing well
oooo. Bebe, do you have an idea how your guy functions in rough weather? When
reality bites, is he calm or does he freak out? Do you share the same interest in
some things? Bebe, before you rush into this marriage, it is important to learn
where your partner stands on the bigger issues of your life together. Do you have
the same values? Sit him down and have a long talk about these and other issues
that are of importance to you, you may discover that chances of a long lasting
marriage could be slimmer; women are intuitively wired to pick up these things. Are
you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman I never saw coming and a woman I will
never let go. When I met my wife, she was not even a girlfriend or a lover. I liked
her physically, because she had and still have curves that men would die for, but
she was never my idea of a wife. She kept hanging around like other beautiful
women around me; it was more or less a platonic relationship. All the time I didn't
know I was under the microscope of the FBI and the CIA. She was to tell me all
this after our marriage. Even though we dated for about 3yrs, in my wildest dream I
never saw her coming till one morning after sleeping over, she woke me up, looked
me straight into my sleepy eyes and demanded that I marry her in the next few
days or she will leave me. Wow! Before then, no one ever threatened me like that,
no one ever gave me ultimatums. Who born them? Me CharlyBoy? Little did I know
that this woman for years has been doing research on me, this woman has seen me
'finish', figured out how to arrest and deal with me. When I was much younger, I
had a very violent temper, I was obnoxious. And she had witnessed me a few times
in my rage with other women. "Ain't you afraid that I will hurt or harm you" to that
she answered, "you can never hurt or harm me because I will never give you a
reason to" hummmmmm !!! Oh! See finish.
Bebe, it's easy to know what you are getting into. If in doubt, investigate, set
exams for the guy. I believe women are emotionally smarter than men. You must
know who you want to marry, it's important for your happiness. You don't deserve
scrap especially if you are hardworking, intelligent, progressive and forward looking.
Investigate him from all angles, don't be in a rush joor . You don't deserve that
heartache because the way marriages are crashing, it's making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very soon we will be throwing divorce parties and
inviting friends and well-wishers to celebrate divorce anniversaries. They will
choose asoebe , hire a big hall, with Dbanj as the entertainer and Julius Agu as the
MC. Even questions like, "when are you getting your divorce" will be the buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the pressure, remain single. If the man is still
under investigation, please take your time, don't rush. If you know that you are too
horny to be faithful, biko remain single and have a ball. If you can't endure bad
weather from time to time, stay in your father's house joor . Never get married out
of desperation or because other people are getting married. If you want a beautiful
home, like mine, examine your choice of a life partner, there are a lot of gigolos out
there preying on desperate babes like you. But show them say you pass them. No
"(#mustread)I Must Marry' - Written by Charly Boy
Another piece from Charly Boy...enjoy...